6 Naughty Hotels To Take Your BDSM Date To

So you've found the perfect sub to your dom, most likely on subs-and-doms.com, right? (wink wink) The beauty of online dating is that at some point you get to meet in person, which adds a whole new level of anticipation and excitement. Why not celebrate your kinky compatibility with a wild night away? After all, sex is always better away from home.

A luxury hotel screams romance, but most offer the same vanilla experience, and plenty of so-called BDSM hotels and bondage hotel rooms stop at a pair of fluffy handcuffs. So we've hunted down six genuinely kinky hotels and dungeon stays, from an English market town to the backstreets of Tokyo, where the equipment is real and nobody bats an eyelid at what's in your suitcase.

1. The Secret Dungeon, High Wycombe, UK

Technically a B&B rather than a hotel, but no list of BDSM hotels would be complete without it. Tucked away a minute's walk from High Wycombe station, The Secret Dungeon has been welcoming kinky couples since 2011 and has even been ranked among the sexiest places to stay in the world.

Inside you'll find a fully equipped dungeon lit and decorated for an authentic S&M atmosphere, alongside every creature comfort: a four-poster bed beneath a mirrored ceiling, a kitchen, a walk-in shower and a private hot tub for when your BDSM date needs soothing. It sleeps up to four, welcomes LGBTQ+ guests, and is a great place to try equipment you've never had the chance to use.

Best for: UK couples who want a real dungeon without leaving the country.

2. Stella Obscura, Los Angeles, USA

Stella Obscura is a private dungeon staycation in Mid-City LA, just minutes from West Hollywood and Culver City. It pairs the comforts of a boutique hotel with a playroom full of BDSM furniture and toys, all reserved exclusively for you during your stay.

The centrepiece is a four-poster canopy bed fit for any Dominant, with a six-foot padded cage right beside it for their submissive (or for both of you to ignore in favour of the bed). Blackout curtains seal you off from the city, and the kitchenette has an ice bucket ready to keep the champagne cold.

Best for: Dominants who like their sub kept close, and city breakers who want kink with home comforts.

3. The Kinky Suite, Amsterdam, Netherlands

Where else would you find a kinky bed and breakfast but in the middle of Amsterdam's Red Light District? Set by the historic Nieuwmarkt, The Kinky Suite spreads over three floors: a lounge with an open kitchen, a BDSM bedroom with a jacuzzi bathroom on the floor above, and at the very top a mirrored loft with a swing.

The lighting can be adjusted to suit the mood, and the suite comes dressed with fetish, SM and bondage accessories, so you can travel light and let the city's famously open attitude do the rest.

Best for: Couples combining a European city break with a very private playroom.

4. Red Room Cabins, Tennessee, USA

Deep in the mountains around Dunlap, an hour from Chattanooga and two from Nashville, Red Room Cabins offers adults-only cabins built for couples who want to reconnect and turn up the heat. Each one comes with its BDSM equipment included, and the names set the tone: the Treehouse Dungeon, the Fortress and the Secret Escape.

It's the perfect combination of wilderness and wickedness. Spend the day walking in the hills, then spend the night somewhere nobody can hear you.

Best for: Outdoorsy couples who want total seclusion with their kink.

5. Monterey Stay & Play, California, USA

Rather than a bustling resort, Monterey Stay & Play is a private, secluded property in Salinas built for the kink community. Styled like a modern barn, it hides a fully equipped BDSM dungeon and is let to couples or small groups who want complete privacy.

No other guests, no neighbours through the wall and no need to keep the volume down.

Best for: Couples and small groups planning a longer, more adventurous stay.

6. Hotel Alpha-In, Tokyo, Japan

One of Tokyo's best-known love hotels, Alpha-In has been devoted to SM for decades, and every one of its 26 rooms is built for BDSM play. Its castle-like stone exterior sits, improbably, among the embassies of upmarket Higashi-Azabu.

Inside, each themed room has its own equipment, from suspension points and bondage frames to leather restraints, with medical-themed rooms among the regulars' favourites. An in-house shop sells candles, rope and costumes, so you can stock up on arrival.

Best for: Seasoned BDSM lovers who want to stay at one of the world's most famous SM hotels.

Tips for the ultimate sexscape

Keep it short. However tempting it is to stay longer, one or two nights keeps things hot. Always leave wanting more.

Keep the first meeting simple. If you've met through online dating, your first time together doesn't need to be a grand production. Enjoying each other's company comes first.

Step outside your comfort zone. This is the time to experiment. Ever wanted to play the deviant dominatrix? Now's your chance.

Share your fantasies. Be honest with your partner about what you want to try, and agree your limits and a safe word you'll both remember before you arrive. A sexy weekend away is the perfect moment to go for it.

Pack something new. Choose outfits your partner hasn't seen before for the ultimate wow.

Eat well. One cannot play well if one has not dined well. Devour something suitably sumptuous (no, not your date's feet; we mean real food) to keep your energy up for playtime. Better still, make it aphrodisiac.

Know the local rules. Always research the local culture and laws before you travel. In some countries sex toys are restricted or even illegal, so know exactly what is and isn't allowed.

Check what's provided. Find out exactly which toys and equipment are supplied so you know what to bring. You want to pack as light as possible.

Play safe. Where toys are provided, use condoms on anything insertable.

Be considerate. One perk of hotel sex is not having to clean up afterwards, but that doesn't mean nobody does. Always put used condoms in a lined bin, whether you're in a vanilla hotel or a BDSM one.

Make time for each other. The break shouldn't only be about sex. Time away from the playroom matters as much as aftercare for bringing you closer.

Whether you and your BDSM date have been together for a few months or ten years, a cheeky getaway breaks up daily life and stokes those burning embers of desire. Stress is your sex life's archenemy, and a perfectly planned escape could lead to the best sex you've ever had. Hallelujah!

Still looking for someone to take away? Plenty of submissives are waiting to be whisked off, and plenty of dominant women are ready to take charge. Just read our first-date safety tips before you book that first night away.